Language and communication skills are essential for the development, socialization and wellbeing of children, as well as being a determinant of their success in the various careers they pursue in life.
There’s a key difference however between the two skills. Language skills mainly focus on using a language correctly, which includes mastering vocabulary, grammar, syntax, pronunciation, and sentence structure. In contrast, communication skills are broader. They involve effectively conveying and interpreting messages, which includes language, non-verbal cues, active listening, adapting to different audiences, and understanding the context of conversations.
As a parent or caregiver here are simple yet effective ways to foster these language and communication skills in your children
- Talk Regularly
Engaging your child in everyday conversations is so important, starting right from infancy. Use simple words and phrases when they’re very young, and as they grow, gradually introduce more complex language to help them learn. Ask open-ended questions that invite them to think and share their thoughts.
Make sure you use eye contact, smiles, and nods to show you’re actively listening. Encourage them to share stories by asking follow-up questions like “why?” and “how?”
- Make Reading a Daily Habit
Reading exposes children to a variety of new vocabulary and different ways of expressing their ideas. Choose books that encourage your children to interact and guess what happens next. More colorful books that will keep their attention is advised.
- Sing Songs and Recite Rhymes
Songs and rhymes are not just fun; they make learning language fun and easy for children through rhythm and repetition. These activities also help improve their memory and listening skills.
- Model Good Communication
Children learn by watching. Use respectful, clear, and kind language, and make sure you listen when they speak. They tend to take on your verbal cues and tone as they become more verbal. So, watch how you communicate around them. Avoid using negative language or derogatory terms with your children.
- Use Positive Reinforcement Statements
When you notice and praise specific behaviors in children, it helps them feel validated and appreciated. It also helps them understand what actions are valued, and encourages them to repeat them in future. For example, say, “I noticed you shared your snacks with your friend today. That was kind.”
Focus on effort, not perfection. Reinforce behaviors with words rather than offering bribes for good conduct.
- Help Them Name Their Feelings
Helping children express their emotions with words is vital for their emotional intelligence. Whether your child is happy, sad, or frustrated, help them label their feelings, such as “You’re feeling sad because you were spanked?”
Help them understand their feelings and also offer guidance on how to express them in healthy ways.
- Limit Screen Time
Face-to-face communication is more beneficial than passive screen time for developing communication and language skills. Create time for screen-free time focused on conversations, storytelling, and playing together.
Set clear boundaries around screens and use that time to engage in more meaningful interactions like playtime with friends.
- Have Fun Together
Enjoying fun moments with your child strengthens your bond and makes communication enjoyable. Take time to joke, laugh, and show interest in their passions.
Balance discipline with positive, fun interactions to create a warm and supportive environment.
Encouraging language and communication in children involves more than just talking. It’s about creating an environment where they feel heard, respected, and encouraged. From reading and singing to modeling positive communication and explaining emotions, your involvement will help your child develop strong language and communication skills.
